fix some connectivity issue

frontend/src/lib/components/TopNav.svelte

@@ -3,11 +3,13 @@
 		announcement = '',
 		role = '',
 		seasons = [],
+		connected = true,
 		children,
 	}: {
 		announcement?: string
 		role?: string
 		seasons?: { id: string; name: string; color: string; active: boolean }[]
+		connected?: boolean
 		children?: any
 	} = $props();
 </script>
@@ -17,6 +19,14 @@
 		{#if role}
 			<span class="role-pill {role}">{role}</span>
 		{/if}
+		<span
+			class="conn-dot"
+			class:up={connected}
+			class:down={!connected}
+			title={connected ? 'Live — realtime connected' : 'Reconnecting — live updates paused'}
+			role="status"
+			aria-label={connected ? 'Realtime connected' : 'Realtime reconnecting'}
+		></span>
 	</div>
 	<div class="topnav-announcement">
 		{#if announcement}<span class="announcement-text">{announcement}</span>{/if}
@@ -68,6 +78,18 @@
 	}
 	.role-pill.parent { background: #fef3c7; color: #b45309; }
 	.role-pill.child { background: #dbeafe; color: #1d4ed8; }
+	.conn-dot {
+		width: 9px;
+		height: 9px;
+		border-radius: 50%;
+		flex-shrink: 0;
+	}
+	.conn-dot.up { background: #22c55e; box-shadow: 0 0 0 3px rgba(34, 197, 94, 0.18); }
+	.conn-dot.down { background: #f59e0b; box-shadow: 0 0 0 3px rgba(245, 158, 11, 0.2); animation: conn-pulse 1.2s infinite; }
+	@keyframes conn-pulse {
+		0%, 100% { opacity: 1; }
+		50% { opacity: 0.35; }
+	}
 	.season-pill {
 		font-size: 0.75rem;
 		padding: 0.2rem 0.6rem;

frontend/src/lib/stores/fam.svelte.ts

@@ -35,9 +35,15 @@ class FamStore {
 	seasons = $state<Season[]>([]);
 	initialized = $state(false);
 	famId = $state('');
+	// True while the realtime SSE stream is down (subscriptions exist but the
+	// socket dropped, e.g. ERR_QUIC_PROTOCOL_ERROR). The SDK reconnects on its
+	// own; we resync missed events on PB_CONNECT (below) + browser signals.
+	connectionDown = $state(false);
 
 	private unsubs: (() => void)[] = [];
 	private destroyed = false;
+	private seenConnect = false;
+	private resyncing = false;
 
 	memberMap(): Map<string, Member> {
 		return new Map(this.members.map((m) => [m.id, m]));
@@ -137,12 +143,115 @@ class FamStore {
 			}
 
 			await this.subscribe();
+			this.watchConnection();
 			this.initPromise = null;
 		})();
 
 		return this.initPromise!;
 	}
 
+	// Refetch every list and replace local state. Used after a realtime
+	// reconnect (the SDK re-establishes SSE itself but never replays events
+	// missed during the outage) and on browser online/visible signals.
+	// Acting on stale state is what produced the phantom "resource not found"
+	// 400s after a tab silently disconnected.
+	async resync() {
+		if (!this.initialized || this.destroyed || this.resyncing) return;
+		this.resyncing = true;
+		try {
+			const [
+				membersRes,
+				templatesRes,
+				assignedRes,
+				completionsRes,
+				bonusConfigsRes,
+				bonusTemplatesRes,
+				rewardsRes,
+				seasonsRes
+			] = await Promise.all([
+				pb.collection('users').getFullList({
+					filter: `famId = '${this.famId}' && role = 'child'`
+				}) as Promise<Member[]>,
+				pb.collection('chore_templates').getFullList({ filter: `(famId = '${this.famId}' || global = true)` }) as Promise<
+					ChoreTemplate[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('assigned_chores').getFullList({ filter: `famId = '${this.famId}'` }) as Promise<
+					AssignedChore[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('completions').getFullList({ filter: `famId = '${this.famId}'` }) as Promise<
+					Completion[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('bonus_configs').getFullList({ filter: `famId = '${this.famId}'` }) as Promise<
+					BonusConfig[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('bonus_templates').getFullList({ filter: `(famId = '${this.famId}' || global = true)` }) as Promise<
+					BonusTemplate[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('rewards').getFullList({ filter: `famId = '${this.famId}'` }) as Promise<
+					Reward[]
+				>,
+				pb.collection('seasons').getFullList({ filter: `famId = '${this.famId}'` }) as Promise<
+					Season[]
+				>
+			]);
+			if (this.destroyed) return;
+			this.members = membersRes;
+			this.templates = templatesRes;
+			this.assigned = assignedRes;
+			this.completions = completionsRes;
+			this.bonusConfigs = bonusConfigsRes;
+			this.bonusTemplates = bonusTemplatesRes;
+			this.rewards = rewardsRes;
+			this.seasons = seasonsRes;
+		} catch (e) {
+			console.error('FamStore.resync failed:', e);
+		} finally {
+			this.resyncing = false;
+		}
+	}
+
+	private connWatchers: (() => void)[] = [];
+
+	private watchConnection() {
+		if (typeof window === 'undefined' || this.connWatchers.length) return;
+		// SDK-level: PB_CONNECT fires on every (re)connect, including the first.
+		pb.realtime
+			.subscribe('PB_CONNECT', () => {
+				if (this.destroyed) return;
+				this.connectionDown = false;
+				if (this.seenConnect) {
+					// Reconnect after an outage — replay what we missed.
+					this.resync().catch(() => {});
+				}
+				this.seenConnect = true;
+			})
+			.then((unsub) => {
+				this.connWatchers.push(unsub);
+			})
+			.catch(() => {});
+		const onDisc = pb.realtime.onDisconnect;
+		pb.realtime.onDisconnect = (active: string[]) => {
+			try {
+				onDisc?.(active);
+			} catch {}
+			// Only flag drops with live subscriptions (not our own cleanup).
+			if (active.length > 0 && !this.destroyed) this.connectionDown = true;
+		};
+		// Browser-level: sleep/wake and offline/online can kill SSE without the
+		// SDK noticing promptly — resync when the network/tab comes back.
+		const onOnline = () => {
+			this.connectionDown = false;
+			this.resync().catch(() => {});
+		};
+		const onVisible = () => {
+			if (document.visibilityState === 'visible') this.resync().catch(() => {});
+		};
+		window.addEventListener('online', onOnline);
+		document.addEventListener('visibilitychange', onVisible);
+		this.connWatchers.push(() => window.removeEventListener('online', onOnline));
+		this.connWatchers.push(() => document.removeEventListener('visibilitychange', onVisible));
+	}
+
 	private async subscribe() {
 		const subs: { collection: CollectionName; filter: string }[] = [
 			{ collection: 'users', filter: `famId = '${this.famId}' && role = 'child'` },
@@ -233,6 +342,10 @@ class FamStore {
 		this.destroyed = true;
 		for (const unsub of this.unsubs) unsub();
 		this.unsubs = [];
+		for (const stop of this.connWatchers) stop();
+		this.connWatchers = [];
+		this.seenConnect = false;
+		this.connectionDown = false;
 		this.initialized = false;
 	}
 }

frontend/src/routes/[fam]/+layout.svelte

@@ -209,6 +209,7 @@
 			role={data.session ? role : ''}
 			seasons={famStore.seasons.filter((s) => s.active !== false)}
 			announcement={disabled && !activating ? accessMessage(accessReason, isParent) : ''}
+			connected={!famStore.connectionDown}
 		>
 			<button class="chat-toggle" onclick={() => chatStore.toggle()} aria-label="Open chat">
 				{@html chatIcon}
@@ -251,6 +252,9 @@
 				{claimToast} — view dashboard →
 			</a>
 		{/if}
+		{#if famStore.connectionDown}
+			<div class="conn-toast" role="status">Reconnecting… live updates paused</div>
+		{/if}
 		<Footer sidebar />
 	</div>
 	{#if chatStore.open}
@@ -279,6 +283,21 @@
 	.claim-toast:hover {
 		background: #d97706;
 	}
+	.conn-toast {
+		position: fixed;
+		bottom: 1rem;
+		left: 50%;
+		transform: translateX(-50%);
+		background: #1f2937;
+		color: #fff;
+		padding: 0.5rem 1.1rem;
+		border-radius: 999px;
+		font-size: 0.8rem;
+		font-weight: 600;
+		z-index: 95;
+		box-shadow: 0 4px 14px rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.3);
+		animation: fadein 0.2s;
+	}
 	@media (max-width: 1023px) {
 		.claim-toast {
 			left: 56px;